oh brother

so once again my brother gives my mom a guilt trip for something that was entirely out of her control. you see my dad broke ground on their add-on last saturday (pics coming soon) so jim, damion, matt and dave were there helping. jim ran the jack hammer all day and was beat down by evening! my mom and i had a wedding of a close friend we had to go to later in the day. i guess damion had called my dad the night before and gave dad the impression that melinda was coming with him. so he asked if they could bring stanton. well of course my dad said yes but when damion got there saturday melinda wasn't with him. he said she was coming later but i don't believe she had any intention of doing so. it came closer to the time for mom and me to get ready so i called melinda and asked her if she was coming. her mom said they would be there soon. so mom and i got ready to go. they showed and we hung out for a bit before we had to leave. i asked melinda if she'd be okay with the three kids, assuming she would be since she has a masters' degree in teaching children of this age or older. she said she would be fine. but of course jim had to go in and feed the girls and put mihi down because for some reason melinda can take care of strangers' kids but not her nieces. i don't understand that one. well last night my parents, the kids and jim all went out to dinner with me. damion went out of his way to call mom and make her feel bad, telling her melinda's feeling were hurt because she wasn't invited to the wedding, like mom was the one who put the guest list together or something. mom totally felt bad all night and i was wondering why he felt like mom should bear the brunt of it. i don't get it. it's not like melinda grew up around judy, it was her wedding. she only saw judy at a few of our family bbqs. it's not like melinda ever really made close friends with judy, i don't even think they spoke much at the gatherings let alone outside of the get togethers. where mom and i, and everyone else that was invited, have always been a big part of judy's life. i think melinda was just pissed because she had to watch the kids and didn't get the day off, as planned. it's not like melinda works full time let alone has to raise stanton alone. they live with her parents and there are five adults always around to help with the boy. she acts like she never gets a day off! please! not to mention they always drop him off at mom's without even planning it with her in the first place. they just assume mom will watch him. not that mom doesn't enjoy having him but i always make sure i've talked it out with mom and have a plan before i drop my kids off to be sat by her. they totally take advantage of my mom. and she works all week, her ass off too, plus she does star. she's hasn't been in the best of health lately and they still act like she should be there at the drop of a hat AND have to be responsible for their butt-hurtness!! stupid. it's like the time damion called mom to bitch that i hurt melinda's feelings when i didn't say hi to her at the salon. i was taking something to meghan's car and she knew i was coming back, if she wanted to talk and bullshit she should have stuck around, but no she left and then they call my mom to tell her i hurt her feelings. how the frick old are we? come on. i don't care what those people do i am just tired of them dragging my mom down and treating her like crap. it's not like i get to hang out with mom all the time, and they drop the boy off at her house just so melinda can go shopping with her mother, that she LIVES with. as if she never gets time with her. it pisses me off. =^..^=